for Safety Planning with Children when
violence takes place
a person or people who can help:
- Focus on what the child thinks she could do to keep
- Give her time to come up with her own solutions
- Ask her who she thinks could help her, and whether she
would feel comfortable asking that person
Children should know that…
- The safety plan may not always work.
- It’s not their fault if it fails.
Help the child identify warning signs
- Mom and dad are arguing
- Dad is raising his voice
- Dad and/or mom is drunk/high
- Dad is namecalling/threatening
- Dad is slamming doors, stomping around
What kids can do to stay safe
- Go to their room
- Leave the house and go somewhere safe: a neighbor’s
house, a relative’s house, or outside
- Stay out of the way
- Dial 911 if there is a phone where their dad can’t
- Don’t ever try to physically stop the violence
Children Who Witness Domestic Violence: A guide for parents.
Instructor’s manual, by Meg Crager
and Lily Anderson.
Funded by the King County Women’s
For more information call 800.838.8238 or